Mixed feelings: Tony
So a while back, sometime last fall, I spoke about Tony.
Tony was my mentor in witchcraft. He was for a good while too, I’d say about 2 years or so. He taught me a good many things about spells and general common sense when it comes to magic. He was a nice, fun, sometimes eccentric guy, who always seem to exaggerate any story he told about his past, but I didn’t mind. I just knew better.
Tony was married to Virginia, who became a good friend of mine. Not legally married, but handfasted, which is a spiritual bond between two people, where they ‘jump the broomstick’ and become as one. It’s a pagan thing.
Virginia had two daughters from previous marriages, Wendy who is 12, and Amy who is 10. Nice girls, the usual heathens as all kids can be.
Apparently sometime last August, Tony was accused of molesting both of them. In some pretty sick ways from what I could understand. Some people said the girls were making it up. I was leaning towards the fact that he actually did it, but of course I still have a small smidgen of doubt. Because there is no way of knowing for sure. Plus I know my mother accused my father of abusing ME when -I- was little and that was totally bogus. She did it to win the custody court case over me. She also accused Vernon (my sisters father) of molesting my sister, and I still don’t think he did. But since I’m not there 24/7, there’s always that smidgen of doubt there too. Of course she didn’t win that custody case because I was a key witness and knew what my mother is capable of.
Anyways, I’ve been on this pagan mailing list for a couple months now, nice people, I enjoy meeting with them, and Tony’s best friend Sin joins. As in in the last few days. And I’m pretty sure where Sin is, Tony is. And I know Tony got out on bail, whether or not anything legal has happened since then I’m not sure.
So I’m having mixed feelings about all this. What if I do run into Tony, what would I say? I don’t want to outright call him a child molestor, I don’t know if he even did it. But what if he did? Most of the people on this mailing ilst are family oriented and have children. Should I say something about it? Should I just keep quiet otherwise I might light a fire that I can’t extinguish until it does too much damage? I certainly don’t want him around -my- sister. But I still wonder if the charges are false. If they are, he is living with a heavy cloud over him for the rest of his life.
I’m writing this mostly for myself, because I had a dream last night about Sin and Tony. That I was hanging out with them somewhere, but I don’t remember where. And it made me come to the realization that I might actually be faced with him, and I just don’t know how I’m going to react. I just don’t know what to do.
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4 Responses to “Mixed feelings: Tony”
May 18th, 2002 at 12:33 pm
It’s always difficult to know what to do in a situation like that. I’d say to just ask him, but that might be unrealistic. I guess you need to go with your gut. If you knew him for a long time, you probably picked up a few things about him, got to know what kind of person he is. If you have a feeling that he might be guilty, there must be something in the past to back that up.
Again, it’s always difficult to know what to do. There is no right answer.
May 18th, 2002 at 1:35 pm
I wish I had some sort of idea what to tell you . . . but I don’t.
That’s one of those situations that are just too goddam complicated for me. But I know you’ll know what to do when the time comes, babe. Good luck.
May 18th, 2002 at 4:03 pm
That is a tough one, Crys. Though, to be perfectly honest I can see a 10 year old girl and a 14 year old girl making something like that up, if it was to suit their interests. Maybe Tony made them mad or something and they wanted revenge.
A few months ago, Emily, my 11 year old sister, got mad at me for something and she stole over $300.00 dollars worth of jewlery from my mother and planted it in my room.
If I were you, honey … I wouldn’t doubt the capabilites of a child. They can be viscious.
May 18th, 2002 at 7:45 pm
I guess I’ll have to see how things go if I actually run into him. But I’m definitely not taking any chances with my sister.