Coming of Age Ritual/Court Soon
So today was Wendy’s Coming of Age Rite of Passage. I wish I could really put into words how much fun I had. In fact, I’m going to try, so you’ll have to deal.
The rite started off with the women kicking the men out *ha*, and preparing for the ritual. We played with each others hair, wove a wreath of red flowers for Wendy to represent becoming a woman, and went over a summary of the ritual.
We then sang a song while we walked into the ritual space, the women dressed mostly in black (for crone) and red (for mother) while Wendy was dressed in white (for maiden). We did our little ritual thing, and then sat down and shared special stories about being a woman that we all experienced. Mine was about how I decided to get engaged at 16 and married at 18 and I tried to tell her always to think things through and be patient because there are so many things that you don’t realize you’ll regret later on. Like getting married. And to never let any guy treat her any less than she deserves. We all told our stories and tied a knot in this red cord for each story told, which she was to keep on her altar.
Then we celebrated her passage into womanhood by piercing her ear, feasting, and then showering her with womanly gifts. I gave her a necklace and some crystals I had gathered, some incense, and incense holder, and a velvet pouch.
Being around so many women of different ages, really did a lot for me. Some of us broke down in tears at the sheer joy and reminicing. Most of us were never given our own Coming of Age ritual, so it really meant a lot of us to participate. I personally never felt so much like a woman, and so much a part of a sisterhood than I did today. I am so very grateful for being able to take part in the ritual. I look forward to holding one for my sister.
In other news, Ex #4 is home now, and I got to talk to him for a few hours tonight, which completed my happiness and ended whatever depression I had been in while he was gone. He’s so good to me. When he’s not GONE FOR A WHOLE DAMN WEEK [end bitterness]
The only part of the ritual tonight that wasn’t good, was Wendy’s mother didn’t show up. And celebrating your daughter becoming a woman is a big deal. That’s like…….missing her wedding or something. I was pretty disappointed in Virginia for not going. She should have made the effort to be there for Wendy. Sati was pretty pissed off too, which is understandable since she put so much effort into it.
Court is on Friday, I’m kinda nervous about it. I have to meet up with Vernons lawyer just to go over what type of things are going to be discussed about Sister. Of course I have to always assume the worse and be worried that my mom might get custody back, but I know in my heart she won’t. She’s just too psycho.
I’m annoyed with a hostee at the moment. I really need to vent about it but can’t *laugh*. Oh well, it will pass in time.
<3
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8 Responses to “Coming of Age Ritual/Court Soon”
January 19th, 2003 at 4:01 pm
Sounds like you had some fun tonight..
As far as the hostee thing goes, PLEASE check your e-mail! *cries*
January 19th, 2003 at 4:12 pm
what religion?
January 19th, 2003 at 4:22 pm
It sounds like it was an experience you won’t soon forget. <33!
Hope things go well in court, Friday. I’ll pray for you.
By the way, I’ve finally got my site up.
January 20th, 2003 at 1:24 am
I cant belive her mother didn’t come…
January 20th, 2003 at 1:29 am
It sounds like the rite was very exciting, and certainly and experience to remember. It saddens me that Wendy’s mother did not come though.
Nice to see you smiling again. :o)
January 20th, 2003 at 2:52 am
To sK: Paganism. Though the place I went to was an officialized Druids Grove.
January 20th, 2003 at 5:18 am
I kind of have something I wanted to ask you about. Hope to talk to you soon.
<33!
January 22nd, 2003 at 3:11 pm
Wow that sounds truly beautiful
Wish I’d had the chance to experience something like that