Disappointment in Friendship
I’m very disappointed in a friend.
Apparently a friend of mine has decided to sever all ties with me because I’m being a good samaritan to someone he doesn’t like. He removed my link from his site, he washed his hands of me and my domain, all because I wouldn’t base my friendships around who he liked and didn’t like. Because I wouldn’t do as he asked and he felt uncomfortable being around this person he hated. I understood he felt uncomfortable, but it’s the whole “It’s my ball and I’m taking it home” theory. And I don’t like it. We’re supposed to try and act mature as human beings. The value of a human being is based on how they are willing to forgive others and move forward, away from the past.
And even when I told him that, all he could do was take offense and get angry with me for even suggesting a thing.
So yes, I’m very disappointed. This is not how you treat your friends.
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14 Responses to “Disappointment in Friendship”
September 13th, 2003 at 4:05 pm
I’m sorry Crys. I know this is your domain and you can choose to host whoever you like and it shouldn’t be anyone else’s business, but I wouldn’t have come back if I thought it would cause you grief. I guess I just assumed if I was mature about it, well, he’d be too.
If I can do anything, let me know. Even if it means leaving … I understand. Much love, darling.
September 13th, 2003 at 7:04 pm
No, I wouldn’t have hosted you if I didn’t want to. And this is my domain.
September 13th, 2003 at 10:05 pm
I’m not one to judge the situation, but I think that if he wants to handle the situation in a way that a 10 year old would, then so be it. At least you know who will stick with you when things get rough.
I hope everything works out for the best. <3
September 13th, 2003 at 11:54 pm
Instead lets just sit around and bash the guy when he’s said nothing for or against the whole situation. Now that sounds like the thing to do! Forget about that reasonable actual asking of the person, no its much more mature to go bash them on your site.. kudos to all the grown-ups here.
September 14th, 2003 at 12:02 am
I’m not bashing anyone, and I’m not encouraging them to either, I’d actually prefer if they didn’t bash.
September 14th, 2003 at 12:22 am
Well, I called it Crys with you the other night, knew the bashing would start eventually on me.. lets just say I was wishing I could just dodge the bullet.. but from now on, I guess it’s safe to say you can’t shoot at something that’s no longer there… After all the work, talks, and dedication thanks for this surprising tribute.
September 14th, 2003 at 12:32 am
Mitch if you had stayed like everyone else, nothing would have happened. I don’t know why you decided to pick up and totally block me out of everything before ANY of this even happened, and I certainly didn’t do anything to deserve it. Obviously you think I did so I’m all ears. Surprising tribute my ass.
September 14th, 2003 at 7:43 am
C, we’re on the same boat.
To feel disappointed is such an aching feeling.
All we could do is just pray they improve as we try to maintain that so called “friendly treatment to the one who is mature” and keep a distance from them.
Sometimes… I just noticed that I become one of them.
So I guess it is a fever. A virus.
September 14th, 2003 at 8:05 am
i love when someone acts like a dick then gets all upset when people say they’re acting like a dick!
September 15th, 2003 at 1:35 am
You know, considering the serious lack of communication going on around here..I’m really surprised at how so many people are acting. I guess I’ve spoken to the three people involved, and from my standpoint there doesn’t seem to be any point to all this negative energy. Now I know that everyone here is capable of acting like mature and civil people. Can we please stop with the accusations and name calling?
Sheesh..it’s like grade school all over again. >,<
September 15th, 2003 at 1:39 am
Amen to that.
September 15th, 2003 at 9:48 am
Unfortunately, I am going through something similar. Back to grade school. Grrr. *mucho hugs for you* Oh, and I LOVE this layout! *drools*
September 15th, 2003 at 9:57 am
Whoa, I don’t believe I bashed anyone in my statement. I simply said I was sorry to have caused a problem and that I’d hoped we could be mature about this.
I whole-heartidly agree with Tamara. :sigh:
September 15th, 2003 at 5:12 pm
Like I said before, I don’t know the situation or the person that is involved. I don’t think I was bashing anyone, I just basically said what was already stated.
But, the only thing I can say is - try not to worry about it Crys. I am almost positive that things will work themselves out. Good luck. <3